Do You Really Want Advice? Or Are You Afraid of Getting Started?

d006c67c78a3a77873d27406d0319cd4I’m going to tell you a story about someone (who I won’t name) who I’ve been chatting with off and on for a month. I’m really frustrated because she’s an awesome person and I want to help her succeed.

We originally met when she emailed me to ask a simple question. I sent her links to some resources and we started messaging each other on Skype. She was new to online marketing and struggling monetarily. She wanted to learn the ropes and I told her to go ahead and ask me questions and I’ll help her out where I can.

Here’s the thing… the first question she asked was how to get traffic to her blog. I gave her a list of my usual ways… getting involved on forums, commenting on blogs, and social media.

Fast forward to a week later and I get a message that says something along these lines:

“I emailed x, y, and z to ask how to get traffic to my site. They suggested solo ads. Do you think this is a good idea?”

On one hand, there is nothing wrong with getting more opinions and more information. On the other hand, when I asked if they had tried any of the things I suggested and they said they weren’t going to start until they figured out which method was best.

Well, we’ve been chatting for a month now and just yesterday they asked me again… “My blog doesn’t get any traffic. What can I do?” I asked what they’ve been doing and they said they didn’t know what to do so they haven’t done anything.”


It’s so frustrating! It makes me wonder if they want advice at all.

So, what does this have to do with you?

Well, I see this all the time on forums. People ask questions that are answered all over the place like they’re still looking for the “best” or “perfect” method. Well, there isn’t one. The only way to make progress is to sit down and actually do these things. It’s work. It takes time. In fact, you’re likely going to waste a lot of time figuring out what will work best for you but you won’t get anywhere if you sit back and ask questions instead of getting started.

Today I had a talk with this awesome person and told them that it’s time to quit learning and start doing if they really want to succeed. It’s normal to be afraid, but if you let that stop you, how will you ever reach your goals?

Do you ever find yourself sending more time researching than actually taking action?

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  1. Amanda,
    You could have been writing about me, as I have been for so many years.

    In my case, the resistance to following the advice, especially advice that meant I not only had to expend time and energy to engage directly and in relationship with others, but I had to do some really difficult internal work to deal with my own self-esteem issues and negative tapes.

    “Change happens when the pain of staying the same is greater than the pain of change.” ― Tony Robbins

    Making the necessary changes to implement good and sound marketing strategies frequently includes a lot of necessary internal emotional and psychological changes as well.

    Just my two cents.

    Kina Diaz DeLeon recently posted..28 Days to a New Me: Day 2 A Purposeful walk . . . and unlikely gratitudeMy Profile

    • I totally agree! That’s why after everything I told them it’s time to think about what’s holding them back. It’s not that they don’t know what to do because I’ve told them how to get started as have half a dozen other people they’ve emailed. They HAVE the information, so what’s really holding them back? I hope that they’re able to figure it out because if they can get past this block I know they can do wonderful things.

  2. I think that a lot of people want the information, but if it seems to hard, or too much work, or there is an easier way, they would rather take that route. Its great to give advice, but I learned a long time ago.. most people either want you to do it for them, or they want you to agree with them. Most of the time, I just say,”so what do you think you should do about it”. response.. “That sounds great” smile and nod, smile and nod!
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    • I’ve noticed a lot of people keep asking questions hoping that someone is going to give them an answer that is easier. They hold out like we’re all hiding the “easy way” for ourselves.

      • That’s a very good point, Amanda. As a newbie, you do look for a quicker and easier way because the whole online marketing thing is overwhelming. I remember that I got some really good advice when I first started out. But it seemed so time consuming that back then it seemed almost impossible to follow through…
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  3. I am a jump in type person…maybe I should do more research sometimes, but with social media it’s all about engagement! You’ve got to jump in…inaction will get you nowhere! Great post!
    Michelle recently posted..Mention: Media and Social Monitoring at Its Best!My Profile

  4. I think we’re all like this when we all started.

    After a point in time, we all take the jump. For some, it takes a bit longer to do what they should have done all along.
    Bonnie Gean recently posted..Pushing Through the Distractions to Complete TasksMy Profile

    • It’s easy to assume there is an easier way. I don’t mind that people come to me like this asking for help, I just hope that one day they realize that it’s not the information they’re looking for… it’s a way to get past their fear of failure and/or work.

  5. This is definetly me I just find it hard to get going, but now I am ticking things off my list one by one until they get done keeping consistent.

  6. I think that people are always asking questions because they want to hear a solution that sounds easy. The methods you mentioned, forums, commenting and such, they all take a lot of time and effort, whereas the solution of solo ads sounds easy – simply chuck money at the problem.

    The only thing you can do is provide the information and let that person decide to take action or not. We all learn in our own way and in our own time 🙂
    Victoria @ My Daily Cuppa recently posted..Free Kindle – In The Park by Victoria VirgoMy Profile

    • Ya, when you’re new you see all of the “Earn $1000 in 10 minutes!” ads and it’s a bit confusing when someone tells you you’re going to have to do something time consuming to earn money.

  7. Hello Amanda
    This is my first visit your Blog well In I think if you start any Blog , Business and other things little bit dilemma in our mind and yes we need some good advice to give a strong way in our target. Question in forums, commenting blog they are very healthy discussion to sought out our confusion.
    Thank You Amanda sharing this interesting Article.
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