The Day I Almost Quit Online Marketing For Good

I was checking out today’s post for Tiffany Dow’s blogging challenge and saw her post was about getting rid of negative self talk, at least for a day. Sometimes that’s so important to do!

I’ll tell you a little story about how I almost gave up on online marketing about a year and a half ago.

At this point I was mostly doing freelance writing and running PLR Content Market. I also ran a niche blog that was making me about $100 a month through ClickBank sales. I spent my days writing for other people, creating PLR, and trying to figure out the whole “blogging” thing. It was going okay but I was still trying to convince my family that it was worth my time.

Working online is hard when you feel alone. I was working hard and making money. This was right about when you started seeing a lot of the one cent per word writers. I started getting email after email from clients saying they wanted me to lower my rates or they were no longer going to have me write for them. So… I let them leave. The thing is, after that it seemed to be harder and harder to find clients. I was working more on my own stuff in the meantime but money was running low and I was down to a small handful of dedicated clients who really loved my work.

This was where I started noticing more of that negative self talk coming in. “Why can’t I find clients? Is my work not worth the money? Can I really make this work? I’m just disappointing my family and making things harder on them.” It went on and on like that until one day I just didn’t think I could handle it. I finished up the work I for my clients and told them I was no longer accepting article writing jobs.

From there I disappeared from the internet. I stopped blogging. I didn’t go on Skype. I didn’t visit any forums. I sulked and talked down to myself for weeks until I was actually afraid of ever trying to make money online again. I thought I was done.

And you know… that really almost was the end. I was getting ready to apply for another job I knew I was going to hate and kiss the dream of working from home goodbye forever. You know what changed my mind?

I got an email from a reader on my blog. She used to be a regular before I stopped blogging and she asked what I was up to. She wanted to know if I was doing okay and what I was working on. I told her I had been taking a break from blogging and she said she couldn’t wait until I got back to it because the tips I was sharing were really helping her and the way I talked about being new but still being able to make money here and there made it feel possible.  We emailed back and forth for a while and I posted one blog post up. It’s amazing how that single action got me back into it.

This time I approached things differently. Whenever I felt like giving up I remembered that there were readers (well, at least one reader) who count on me. I’m helping them and they come back time after time to hear what I have to say. For a while I focused on blogging for them, not for myself. It really made a huge change in the way worked and it’s what helped me transition from freelance writing to working on my own stuff because I started to feel confident in what I was doing.

I took things one step at a time and always kept my readers in mind. I thought about what I could do for them and forgot about the money. I started to pick up clients again as my confidence improved so writing for only 3 clients made me enough money that I could focus on serving my audience. And you know what happened? I started making more money on my blog too. It was awesome and it’s why I’m here blogging for you now. I learned that the real key to success is keeping those readers in your mind every step of the way rather than your wallet or yourself.

It’s easy to get disheartened in this business. It’s easy to get depressed and distraught. The negative self talk can really get you down fast.

I’m going to end this post with some POSITIVE self talk like Tiffany Dow suggested we all do in her new blog post.

What is Great About Me?

It’s hard to say nice things about yourself. Society tells you not to “brag”. You’re supposed to talk about the good things about other people, not yourself, right? No! From time to time you need to remind yourself what makes yourself great.

Here are some of the things that I feel make me great.

  • I’m a loving fiance who works hard to keep my family happy.
  • I’m enthusiastic about the things I do and I try to spread that enthusiasm around.
  • I love animals and go out of my way to keep them safe whenever possible.
  • I’m caring and always ready to help someone who is ready to help themselves.
  • I’m a hard worker and not afraid to go all in figuring something out, even if I get frustrated.
  • I know how to laugh at myself and get back on the horse when I make a mistake. (This one was hard to learn.)

So, what makes you great? What struggles have you managed to fight though in your online marketing career? Leave a comment below.

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Comments

  1. So glad you didn’t quit, I’ve gotten close a time or two myself in the last 4 years. It’s tough sometimes.
    Crystal Touchton recently posted..Being A Dreamer Can Hold You Back In BusinessMy Profile

  2. Wow Amanda, that’s quite the story. Who can top that?

    I have taken so many “breaks” from the Internet as a result of my health going sour and I was always glad to get back to business once the worst part was over.

    There are times when someone banters me in email that makes me think why I keep doing what I’m doing when there are so many ungrateful people in the world. Then I think of that ONE person who I would let down if i left for good and that’s enough to keep me going – pretty much like you.
    Bonnie Gean recently posted..How to Create a Podcast Show, Part 5My Profile

    • Staying positive isn’t always easy but it’s the only way to keep pushing on sometimes. That means focusing on the awesome people rather than the rude and ungrateful people. Having the attitude of “I’m coming to the table to serve” made a huge difference in the way I look at the things I do and the people I interact with.

  3. Great post Amanda. Shows why you were doing it in the first place. Yes you need to make money, but obviously helping others is fulfilling too and I’m glad that brought you back!

    I have nearly quit for a different reason – my comfort zone. I nearly quit blogging because I was fed up with having to put myself out there. That was back before I even really said much personal or had vlogs. Now, I do more but I still get that nagging feeling to hide away at times. I just gotta remind myself why I do it too!
    Ruth recently posted..Using Aweber To Track Your List Building EffortsMy Profile

    • I know what you mean. I’m generally a very private person. I have some close friends and family and I don’t really socialize outside of that. I don’t share much about myself. I’ve gotten a lot more comfortable with it online but I think I’d shy away if I thought the people I know were reading the posts. lol

  4. Hi Amanda

    I’ve found that the ungrateful clients are normally in the minority, BUT they are the ones that we dwell on! We can so easily forget the ones that appreciate us and make us feel good and hide in our hole just because one person has a problem. I say Forget them and focus on the good ones 🙂
    Tamsin recently posted..Vlog Update 3 March 2013My Profile

    • The very few I write for now on occasion are great. Since I don’t advertise my service the ones I work with are ones who decided to seek me out and they tend to be the most appreciative.

  5. Am happy that you hang on there! I’ve also been on and off the online marketing path and am now sticking to it no matter. I am learning it the hard but possible way to change myself (thoughts) and also finding supportive environments (people with similar interest in online marketing).
    Lilian recently posted..How To Serve Value-Packed Blog Posts – #7 BLCMy Profile

  6. Amanda,
    I am so glad that you posted this! After a rough week, being sick of just writing for other people and content mills in particular, I have started trying to branch out. I have a baby who is one at home all day, then older kids and a husband home at night, and they don’t always understand my ‘job’. There have been several times that I have just completely doubted whether I can do this…but the alternative would never be satisfying after seeing that I can work from home and actually support my family.
    You give the best tips on both this and the SquidsPro site; and you are so easy to relate to! I am so glad you didn’t quit because it is people like you who keep me encouraged and trying ‘one more time’ every time I feel like packing it all in.
    Thanks for a great post!
    Jessica Woods recently posted..Why butter is always better! updated Tue Mar 5 2013 12:04 pm ESTMy Profile

    • Content Mills will make you stop enjoying yourself pretty quickly. Keep up the good work and know that my inbox is always open. Just use the contact form. The link is at the top of the screen.

  7. I am so glad that you were able to get your online mojo back. Getting that email just shows that your prescence made a real impact on someone. That must feel wonderful.

    Your list doesn’t sound like bragging at all. Go on ya 🙂
    Victoria @ My Daily Cuppa recently posted..Weekly Roundup Vlog – What An Amazing Week it Has BeenMy Profile

  8. Yay – another animal lover! I love animals too.

    This reminds me of when I trained search and rescue dogs – new handlers would freak out if the dog got an injury and had to miss some training time. I told them that “Managing the injuries is part of the whole process and picture.” Just look at it as part of what you are doing as a whole and make sure to handle it the right way – let the dog rest and recover, then move on toward your goal.

    I have found that dealing with discouragement is part of this whole process to success. I am trying to focus on managing it and moving on toward my goals.

    Mary
    Mary Kathan recently posted..Social Media Sizing Cheat SheetMy Profile

  9. So glad you came back online. Our families, most of them really don’t understand the process. I know that all successful people have their ups and downs. No one really see’s them fail but they all do in order to succeed.

    I started my eBay blog because I wanted to help others learn how to start selling and their wasn’t much out there to help. I hope I am helping someone.
    michelle recently posted..Selling Flatware on eBay, Freebie Friday!My Profile

    • I’m not really into eBay. That was my mom’s thing so of course I ran the opposite direction! lol I do love your blog though. Reading over it it’s like I’m sitting in front of you getting real advice. Keep up the good work!

  10. Thanks for sharing your story. I seem to walk away about once a year, but after a few weeks, the “addiction” is back. I look at it as a vacation now instead of quitting. We all need time to regroup, and it does feel good to take some time and not worry about anyone except yourself. You can’t be loving and caring to others if you neglect that in yourself.

    I think one day we will learn to take more smaller chunks of time to ourselves, more often, than to take one huge chunk because we’re burned out.

    Even soldiers have to regroup and recoup so they can fight another day. 😉
    Patti Stafford recently posted..Stepping Into the Title of Internet MarketerMy Profile

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