I was checking out today’s post for Tiffany Dow’s blogging challenge and saw her post was about getting rid of negative self talk, at least for a day. Sometimes that’s so important to do!
I’ll tell you a little story about how I almost gave up on online marketing about a year and a half ago.
At this point I was mostly doing freelance writing and running PLR Content Market. I also ran a niche blog that was making me about $100 a month through ClickBank sales. I spent my days writing for other people, creating PLR, and trying to figure out the whole “blogging” thing. It was going okay but I was still trying to convince my family that it was worth my time.
Working online is hard when you feel alone. I was working hard and making money. This was right about when you started seeing a lot of the one cent per word writers. I started getting email after email from clients saying they wanted me to lower my rates or they were no longer going to have me write for them. So… I let them leave. The thing is, after that it seemed to be harder and harder to find clients. I was working more on my own stuff in the meantime but money was running low and I was down to a small handful of dedicated clients who really loved my work.
This was where I started noticing more of that negative self talk coming in. “Why can’t I find clients? Is my work not worth the money? Can I really make this work? I’m just disappointing my family and making things harder on them.” It went on and on like that until one day I just didn’t think I could handle it. I finished up the work I for my clients and told them I was no longer accepting article writing jobs.
From there I disappeared from the internet. I stopped blogging. I didn’t go on Skype. I didn’t visit any forums. I sulked and talked down to myself for weeks until I was actually afraid of ever trying to make money online again. I thought I was done.
And you know… that really almost was the end. I was getting ready to apply for another job I knew I was going to hate and kiss the dream of working from home goodbye forever. You know what changed my mind?
I got an email from a reader on my blog. She used to be a regular before I stopped blogging and she asked what I was up to. She wanted to know if I was doing okay and what I was working on. I told her I had been taking a break from blogging and she said she couldn’t wait until I got back to it because the tips I was sharing were really helping her and the way I talked about being new but still being able to make money here and there made it feel possible. We emailed back and forth for a while and I posted one blog post up. It’s amazing how that single action got me back into it.
This time I approached things differently. Whenever I felt like giving up I remembered that there were readers (well, at least one reader) who count on me. I’m helping them and they come back time after time to hear what I have to say. For a while I focused on blogging for them, not for myself. It really made a huge change in the way worked and it’s what helped me transition from freelance writing to working on my own stuff because I started to feel confident in what I was doing.
I took things one step at a time and always kept my readers in mind. I thought about what I could do for them and forgot about the money. I started to pick up clients again as my confidence improved so writing for only 3 clients made me enough money that I could focus on serving my audience. And you know what happened? I started making more money on my blog too. It was awesome and it’s why I’m here blogging for you now. I learned that the real key to success is keeping those readers in your mind every step of the way rather than your wallet or yourself.
It’s easy to get disheartened in this business. It’s easy to get depressed and distraught. The negative self talk can really get you down fast.
I’m going to end this post with some POSITIVE self talk like Tiffany Dow suggested we all do in her new blog post.
What is Great About Me?
It’s hard to say nice things about yourself. Society tells you not to “brag”. You’re supposed to talk about the good things about other people, not yourself, right? No! From time to time you need to remind yourself what makes yourself great.
Here are some of the things that I feel make me great.
- I’m a loving fiance who works hard to keep my family happy.
- I’m enthusiastic about the things I do and I try to spread that enthusiasm around.
- I love animals and go out of my way to keep them safe whenever possible.
- I’m caring and always ready to help someone who is ready to help themselves.
- I’m a hard worker and not afraid to go all in figuring something out, even if I get frustrated.
- I know how to laugh at myself and get back on the horse when I make a mistake. (This one was hard to learn.)
So, what makes you great? What struggles have you managed to fight though in your online marketing career? Leave a comment below.